The extract we have heard from the letter to the Colossians seems particularly appropriate for the first Sunday after Christmas. The heart of its teaching is gratitude and I hope we’ve all got reasons to be grateful.
Christmas is a time when families spend some, often unaccustomed, time together; and while this can sometimes be fraught and tense it also reminds us, I hope, of how much we owe one another. The family unit forms a core of the way we organise ourselves as human beings and this is a time in our society when scattered families come together to eat and to simply be in one another’s presence or when groups large or small form themselves into virtual families for the day.
Generations are gathered, cousins meet, relations we barely know are encountered or alternatively friends or, as at Potters Bar this year, strangers, gather.. Not everyone wholeheartedly enjoys every moment of the experience but it has its very great value. Individuals who would like to think of themselves as independent and self-sufficient are forced to acknowledge their debts and their responsibilities, due to where they have come from and how they have been cared for.
In the exchange of gifts we symbolise our knowledge of and connection to all those who form this network of kinship, complicated and enriched by patterns other than those of biological connection. The people who find themselves together on Christmas day become family and this matters. The presents we give one another represent this bond between us and if they work well make us feel valued and known.
In response to this we feel gratitude, not just or even primarily for the usefulness or beauty of the object given but for the evidence it gives that somebody has been thinking about us, putting effort into making us feel good, when we weren’t there and didn’t know we were in their mind. A present is proof that we are valued, that we have a place in the world where we matter.
Our reading from Paul ended with this sentence: “whatever you do, in word or deed, do everything in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks to God the Father through him.”
What is it, especially, that we are to be grateful for? In this context it seems to be the call to be part of God’s chosen people, remember our passage began with the words; “ as God’s chosen ones” and halfway through Paul reminds us to: “let the peace of Christ rule in your hearts, to which indeed you were called in the one body.”
It is indeed right that we should be grateful for this choosing, this calling. It is a great privilege to serve God in the way we do. It is special proof of God’s noticing of us, his remembering of us, as the gifts we receive from our friends and family are of our value to them. God’s calling of us into the Church is a gift to us, as well as a set of demands put on us.
Beyond this, though, the gratitude we are called to here has other, less personal roots. We owe to God the great gift of our own being. This is a gift of another order. That we are at all is a mark of God’s not simply remembering us as he went through a list of those to whom presents were owed. Rather he has gone out of his way to put us on that list. Before we were God owed us nothing, certainly not existence. God chose freely to make each and every one of us and to make us as we are. We are God’s gift to us.
What’s more God didn’t only make us he also redeemed us. As each of us was made each of us was also saved from our sin, our separation from God, in Jesus. God came to be with us in Christ in order to restore to us the gift of life that we seemed to lose through our sin. We are resurrected to new life by God, given the gift again, even after we have thrown it away.
Reason to be grateful, indeed.
So how are we to express our gratitude? Paul helps us to grasp this in our letter and the account he gives us of Christian virtue is beautiful and worth spending time on.
He lists five virtues: compassion, kindness, gentleness, humility, and patience and he joins these together in love, which, he says, binds all together in perfect harmony. We feel gratitude for God’s gifts, this expresses itself in love and this love works itself out through the virtues.
Compassion: as we are shaped and transformed by the love that springs from our gratitude to God we recognise in others the value placed on them by God. When others suffer we see ourselves in their place and feel their suffering as our own. We are never indifferent to those who are weaker or less fortunate than us. Rather we recognise our common humanity, our common dependency on God and open ourselves up to our brothers and sisters.
Kindness: we act on these feelings. We try to find whatever ways we can to ease the burdens of our fellows. We tend to their hurts, we feed their hunger, we comfort their sadness, loneliness, bewilderment. Above all we act to let them know and really to feel their value in our eyes.
Gentleness: in so doing we are careful in our dealings with one another. Our strength is controlled so that others aren’t bruised or otherwise hurt by it. When we have to do with those who are or who seem weaker than we are we are careful not to overwhelm or humiliate them. Our good deeds are never forceful but always tender and gentle.
Humility: in all of this we are constantly aware that whatever we are, whatever we have, whatever we do are not possessions of our own, won by our own merit. They are outworkings of God’s grace in us. Our achievements and our merits are God’s, owed by us to him. Our humility is a real sense of how entirely our value derives from God’s valuation of us.
Patience: we bear with God, knowing that his time and ours are different. When things don’t go as we would like them to, when we are faced with trials, when the promise of eternal and complete happiness seems empty given the struggles we go through we remember that our God is a faithful God. If things aren’t right now then they will be, then. We bear with God, we trust his word, we know that the gifts we have been promised will come.
These are the Christian virtues as Paul lists them and the reasons he gives to try to live into them have little to do either with threats or with rewards, with sticks or with carrots. They are part of a relationship with God that is constituted by generosity and gratitude, with gifts given and received in love. We have had a reflected glimpse of it in our Christmas festivities, let’s carry that spirit with us into the new year,
thanks be to God!